That
was years ago when I had ambition of my own, for myself. Just when I thought my life was going great, I decided to get out of my comfort zone. I took
a turn. This turning point seemed like walking through rainbow. It seemed
better than what I had back then. The idea of having a family with the man I
love. The idea of raising my own children in a land where life seem to be
perfect, where opportunities seem to be all around, distracted my idea of giving
me the ultimate attention.
This
is when I learn that the value that I have built around myself could easily
deteriorate after I step out of my comfort zone and not knowing how to deal with it. In my context, walking out of my comfort zone would mean that I am a Nobody. I have never been a nobody before, Eversince I was born, I have been a somebody. how does one feel to be a Nobody? This is it, the new discovery of my life.
It
is disappointing to know that my degree is not recognized in my new country and
therefore my years spent at the local University seemed wasted. My fluency in
English doesn’t help me at all because the language is not widely spoken in my
new country, and the people seem to be sceptical about a non-native English
speaker. My working experience doesn’t impress the small group of people whom I
wanted to impress because the area of expertise of my previous job doesn’t fit
the jobs that I applied for. When I slowly tried to position myself in the society by
first learning the language, and establishing contacts with individuals whom I
met at school, I get to know that immigrants are referred to as “Auslander”.
That is quite a degrading nickname for us.
I
am truly happy in my country as I got what it takes to be accepted, recognized
and move forward. Anyone who comes to my country with any kind of expertise
could find a job eventually. In fact back home, the society in which I grew up
in has been and will always be the warm welcoming society. However, in my new
country, I am stuck. The locals are distant and has no interest to get to know me. How could this be happening to me? I feel that I worth nothing.
I have to start from scratch. How can I increase my value again?
I
have to think of a few strategies. Will they work? Only time will tell. Let me
share with you the first one. They all say, “learn the bloody language, learn
as much as possible to be as perfect as possible. Maybe they will look at you
differently”. Look at me differently? I don’t want to be different. I want to
be me and to be accepted as the way I am. In my country, people talk the same
language with different accent and different set or standard of grammar.
Sometimes there is no grammar application at all; just a set of arranged words.
Nevertheless, people understood this other world of spoken language and we all
accept this variation with great honour and respect.
The main goal is to be perfect as fast as you can. That means intensive workout. Intensive practice, intensive learning. One very good advice I got from a lot of people is to forget other languages and just concentrate on this one, the mother language of my new country. Did I take that advice? You bet I did; only to realize that I slowly forgetting the other 2 languages that I have mastered and yet not mastering the new one. How irony is that? In the end I feel like I don't know any language anymore. That helped me feel more miserable. Thank you!!!
...to be continued
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